Wouldn’t it become cool to become a psychic? How would you like to connect with strangers and make new friends faster, Or perhaps you’re into business or there’s just someone you want to impress. Well then here’s 12 Cold Reading techniques from Ian Rowlands book, “The Full Facts Book of Cold Reading.”
Golden Rule: YES AND, NO BUT. This means if your prediction or guess is correct or even just a maybe, simply say “And” or just keep going and add on. But if your predictions misses, say “But” and then give an explanation or just make another guess. With all my years of Cold Reading this is the most important rule that has helped me.
You: “I can tell you’re an independent person”
You: “And based on our conversation, you know I can tell that you like to lead more than follow”
Person: “I guess…. sometimes”
You: “Yes and I have a feeling that you’re more confident than most people “
Person: “not really”
You: “Ahh, but I’m sure you can be when you’re doing an activity that you love to do”
Person: “You’re right”
Vanishing Negatives: Learn this technique and you will never ever be wrong again when asking a question that prompts a yes/no response.
To do this, simply reformat your question to include a negative word like “not” or “don’t”. And if you get the question right, then simply say something like, “Yeah that’s what I thought.” And if you get you get it wrong, simply say, “No, I didn’t think so.” Here’s an example:
Instead of asking, “Do you work for yourself?”, say…
“You don’t work for yourself do you?”
No I don’t.”
“No, I didn’t think so. … cuz you don’t seem to be cut out to be one of these flashy, egocentric entrepreneurs, with all that stress and the hassle. Most of them never get anywhere anyways!”
Now for the other scenario.
“You don’t work for yourself do you?”
“Yes, I do, actually. Have done for a while.”
Barnum Statements: These are statements that are true for most people. Here’s a few examples
EX1: “You tend to feel you have a lot of unused capacity, and that people don’t always give you full credit for your abilities.”
EX2: “Some of your hopes and goals tend to be pretty unrealistic.”
EX3: “You often give yourself quite a hard time over your mistakes and shortcomings which perhaps other people wouldn’t worry about.
EX4: “You have a strong need for people to like and respect you.”
EX5: “You are an independent and an original thinker; you don’t just accept what people tell you to believe.”
Now remember, if they reject your statement, remember the golden rule. YES AND NO BUT. So if they deny the last example, you could say
“Ahh but this tendency is one you have learned to overcome. You have probably learned how damaging it can be to be too self-critical, and respects and all the credit to you for having matured.”
Rainbow Ruse: These are statements which credits the person with both a personality trait and its opposite. For example:
Ex1: I would say that on the whole you’re the quiet type. but when the circumstances are right, you can be quite the life and soul of the party.
Ex2: “You can be a very considerate person and very quick to provide for others. But there are times if you are honest to yourself, you can be very selfish
Other good transitions to connect the two opposites are “at other times” and “yet you also have the potential to be”
These work because majority of people’s personalities are not static and changes depending on the situation or environment
Fine Flattery: This is simply a compliment that compares the person to the general population.
If I just told you, “You are wonderfully honest!” While this is definitely flattery, some people will become suspicious of this blatant flattery and will simply reject it. Instead, it’s better to say something like
Ex1: You are way more honest than most people I meet”
A bonus tip is to give traits to people that you want them to have, like honesty. Then they’ll have to live up to it.
So if you want to increase compliance, then compliment them that they’re more open minded than most people.
Ex2: “I like how you’re so open-minded, more people need to be like you.”
Ex3: “I’d say you’re a little bit more honest and conscientious than many people tend to be.”
Other reliable ones: being hard-working and diligent conscientious fair-minded warm and loving independent being wise in the ways of the world, a wisdom gained through hard experience rather than ‘book learning’ knowing how to be a good friend
Psychic Credits: These are character statements which credit the person with some form of psychic or intuitive gifts. The psychology behind this, is that if you can convince people that they’re at least somewhat psychic, then they’re more likely to believe you’re psychic.
Like the previous technique. it’s not effective if you just say, “Hey! You’re a psychic too! or You’re very intuitive.”
Ex1: “I bet you’re probably the type of person who will be thinking about someone, and then next thing you know they message or call you. Am I right?”
For the ladies especially if they have make up on, you can say:
Ex2: “I can tell yore probably the type of person who would do your face and smarten up your make-up for no reason, and then suddenly there’s a knock on the door and it turns out to be someone who you’re glad you looked your best for”
For the men:
Ex3:Your intuitive side means you have a lot more rapport with women than many men, and this is a characteristic which, whether or not you realise it, a lot of women find very appealing about you
Sugar Lumps: You can use these when you sense people are being closed minded
Ex1: “You know in some ways, you have become very defensive, almost as if you’re locked up in your own secure little castle.”
Ex2: “You know, you won’t come to any harm if you lower your defences a little. Who knows, you might find a few of the answers that you’ve been looking for”
Ex3: “I really like how you’re more open minded than most people I know.”
Incidental Questions: Now some people won’t think you’re a psychic if you ask them direct questions like, “Are you satisfied in terms of your career, or is there a problem?” or “What is it about your health that concerns you?” Cuz a skeptic would be like, “Ugh, shouldn’t you just know you that?”
Instead it’s more slick to add incidental questions at the end of your guesses. Some examples are:
Ex1: “…now why would that be?” Ex2: “…is this making sense to you?” Ex3: “…can you relate to this?” Ex4: “…does this sound right?”
Ex5: “…would you say this is along the right lines for you?”
Ex6: “…this is significant to you, isn’t it?”
Ex7: “…you can connect with this can’t you?”
Ex8: “…so who might this refer to please?” Ex9: “…what might this link to in your life?” Ex10: “…what period of your life, please, might this relate to?” Ex11: “…so tell me, how might this be significant to you?”
Ex12: “…can you see why this might be the impression I’m getting?”
The point I’m trying to make is that you want to extract information from people without them realizing it. And your inflection and tone of voice will make a big difference to the success of this illusion. Now a more advanced way is to ask questions that are ambiguous in the sense that it can possibly be misinterpreted as a statement. For instance, “Now you seem like someone who likes to do things their way, this is important to you…” Then simply pause and wait for them to say something.
Sherlock Strategy:This is extracting information by observing the person, and then making guesses. For example: If you observe someone has long even nails on their left hand but short nails on their right hand, you can make a guess that the person not only plays the guitar, but is left handed. Now of course, don’t reference the observation you made, make up some other vague reason instead.
Ex1: “You don’t seem to think like most people. I bet you you’re left handed.”
Likely Predictions: These are predictions that have a high chance of happening in the near distant future. Some examples are:
Ex1: “Within the next year, you will receive an unexpected contact form someone you haven’t heard from in a quite a while.”
Ex2: “In the year ahead I can see an accident involving you, or a member of your family, and broken or falling glass.”
And the cool nature about future predictions is that no one can really accuse you of being wrong at the present moment. And often times if they don’t come true, they’ll forget about it. But if it does come true, you will be remembered and they might surprisingly contact you.
One Way Verification Predictions: These are predictions that you can never get wrong, because people can only verify them if they become true. It’s my absolute favourite. Here’s an example:
Ex1: “Someone you like is going to ask you out tomorrow, but may decide at the last minute not to do so due to shyness”
See if it actually happens you’re psychic, but if doesn’t happen, well you’re still right cuz she was shy.
Ex2: “The end of the world is coming,”
Ex3: “if you pray hard enough it’ll come true”
Another ruse employed by psychics is to make predictions which the client can never verify either way. Here is an example:
Ex1: “Someone you know will secretly harbour some grudge or ill- will against you. They will plan to put obstacles in your way, but you will overcome their plans without even realizing it.”
Take a moment to study the careful wording used here. You will see that the client cannot possibly know if it ever comes true or not. Here is another:
Ex2: “At the place where you work, there will be some behind-the- scenes dealings which do not involve you, but which will be to your advantage in the long term.”
The psychic who makes Unverifiable Predictions can never be wrong.
Peter Pan Predictions: Peter Pan predictions are ones in which the psychic simply predicts whatever the client wants to hear. This may seem such a simplistic and transparent ruse as not to be worth mentioning. On the other hand, it is such a key aspect of the psychic seduction that it would be incongruous not to include it in this section.
These are fairly bland predictions which follow a set formula. They focus on one area of the client’s life, and say that things which may have been difficult lately will improve soon. They are named after Pollyanna, the irrepressibly optimistic heroine of Eleanor Porter’s 1913 novel.
Ex1: “Financially, it’s been a bit of a bumpy ride these past couple of years, but the next 18 month or so will be a lot easier”.
Psychics can apply Pollyanna Pearls to most facets of life, and to almost any type of reading. Here are some other examples which illustrate possible themes and variations.
Certain Predictions: These are predictions where no set time is states
Ex1: “Someone new is going to come into your life.”
Ex2:“A minor illness or injury is indicated.”
Ex3: “You will experience problems with an investment, or with something you have bought.”
Self-fulfilling Predictions: Another neat trick is for the psychic to make predictions which possess the virtue of being self-fulfilling. These generally pertain to, or are based on, aspects of the client’s mood and personality. For example:
Ex1: “You will begin to adopt a more positive and friendly outlook. You will let go of many old grievances, and start afresh – being a good friend to yourself, and ready to be a good friend to others. You will soon have a larger social circle than at present.”
This kind of prediction is likely to be self-fulfilling in many cases. If the client goes away convinced that she is about to become more popular, she may well feel very happy at the prospect. Since she is happier, she is more cheerful and more sociable. Since she is more sociable, she makes friends more easily. Bingo!
Most men tried learning a musical instrument as a child, but then gave up
Most men wore a moustache or beard at some point, even if they have been clean0shaven for years
Most men have at least one old suit hanging in their wardrobe they can no longer fit into
Most women own, or have owned, an item of clothing which they bought and then never wore
Most women have many pairs of shoes than they actually need in practical terms
Most women keep photos of their loved ones in their purse or otherwise near them, even if they do not seem the sentimental type
Most women wear their hair long as a child, then adopt a shorter haircut when they get older
Most women have at least one ear-ring the partner of which has been lost
Most people have, or have had, a scar on the left knee
Most people will have been involved in some sort of childhood accident which involved water
Most people with fair skin have experienced bad sunburn at least once
If your Prediction Misses
I’m right, but you have forgotten: The psychic accounts for the discrepancy between her statement and the client’s rejection by blaming the client’s poor memory.
Ex1: “And when you were younger, I see an accident involving water. Does this make sense to you?”
If yes, it is a hit.
If not, the psychic says: “I sense it’s going back some time, perhaps when you were really very young. You may not remember.” The psychic then smoothly progresses to the next part of the reading, with no harm done.
I’m right, but you do not know: The discrepancy is attributed to the client not being in full possession of the facts.
Ex1: “I see the name Mark. Does this mean something to you?”
If yes, it is a hit.
If not, then: “I sense this person could be some professional connection on your husband’s side. In fact you wouldn’t necessarily know him that well.”
I’m right, but nobody knows: The psychic explains the discrepancy by saying that she has the facts, but neither the client nor anybody else does.
Ex1: “This uncle of yours, he has a problem with the chest area, doesn’t he?”
If yes, it is a hit.
If not, then: “Of course he might not even realize it’s his chest that’s the problem. Perhaps it’s a while since he had a check-up, but I can definitely see a minor problem there”.
I’m right, bit’s embarrassing: The psychic suggests that although she is correct, there are reasons of taste or embarrassment which obscure the fact.
Ex1: “And as regards your grandfather… mmm, there was a problem with the law, wasn’t there?”
If yes, it is a hit.
If not, then: “Actually, he may have kept rather quiet about it, and never told you. Sort of kept it ‘hush hush’. I don’t think there’s any need to dwell on it”.
I’m wrong now, but I will be right soon: The rejection is attributed to the fact that the truth will not become evident for some time
Ex1: “I see the initials J and T. Do these mean something to you?”
“No, I don’t think so.”
“Are you quite sure?”
“Mm-um, yes, I’m pretty sure.”
“Well, watch out for them because it’s quite a definite impression, so they’re coming up very soon, all right?”
This formula can be used the other way around. The psychic can offer a statement which refers to the future, and hastily re-shape it to fit the present if necessary:
Ex2: “I also foresee that you, or someone close to you, will be moving house in the near future.”
“Oh, well actually we just finished moving last week!”
“Is that right?! Well I could see you moving house, and for some reason I thought it was coming up in a week or so. Time is rather a fluid concept in the tarot…”
Apologize: This is the last refuge! If all else fails, the psychic can at least say something like this:
Ex1: “OK, well when I’m wrong I’m wrong, and I’m not too proud to admit it. I wish I could always be a 100% right, but then don’t we all? Anyway, let me move on to the next area I want to look at with you, which is travel…”
Hope these techniques helped. Lastly, as a word of a precaution, like with many of my persuasion videos, please don’t use these techniques to scam and manipulate people. My guideline for manipulation is, if you’re doing things that’s taking value from people more than you’re giving, then that’s manipulation. But if you genuinely believe you’re helping someone, or providing entertainment like a magician or creating win-win situations, then i’m cool with that.